6 years ago today my Dad was alive.
The night before, Mike called him from Idaho laughing, saying, "Can you believe how many times this Razorback game is going into overtime?"
That morning, he and my Mom went to church, where he taught an adult Sunday School class. During the sermon Bro. Dave called him to the front podium as a visual aid, talking about David and Goliath.
That night they were back in church for the Lord's Supper, him looking handsome in his suit.
The next morning he wasn't called in to sub at the high school, so he and my Mom went to walk at the track. He was a speed-walker, and was about 10 feet ahead of her when he fell flat on his back. At first my Mom thought he was joking around. When she started yelling his name, 2 young women on the track, whom they had smiled at and talked to earlier, came running over. They were nurses, and performed CPR until the ambulance got there. But they never found a pulse.
I was at home in Idaho, with my three-year-old Jessica and one-year-old Mikayla. I was sitting in my big chair-and-a-half, where I loved to have my quiet time, looking out the big picture window, when my big brother Mark called. He was in the middle of a divorce, and when he asked if Mike was home and then sighed, I wondered what she had done this time. Then he said, "Mom and Dad were walking at the track and he had a heart attack and he's gone." And the phone died.
Mike and I didn't have cell phones, and Baptist Collegiate Ministry doesn't have buildings or even offices in the Northwest. I had no way of getting in touch with him. I paced the kitchen, crying and hugging myself, and kept hearing Psalm 46:1 over and over in my head, "God is my refuge and strength; a very present help in trouble." Finally I called a student, bless his heart, who found Mike on campus for me and told him. He came home as upset as if it had been his own father. I called my friend Denise in Lewiston, and she immediately drove 45 minutes to be with me, and she cried with me, too.
We flew to Conway the next day. Mike took care of everything. Plane tickets, the kids, food--did everything he could to make it easier anyway he could.
It's weird how 6 years can be such a long time, but feel like yesterday.
This morning we were in a strange church, where Mike did pulpit supply, and we sang, "He Knows My Name." When we came to the verse that says, "I have a Father; He calls me His own. He'll never leave me, no matter where I go," I felt the tears falling down my face. As usual. I know my Daddy didn't leave me, as in abandon/desert me...but I miss him just the same.
I learned so much through all of that experience. Felt close to God in a way I never had before. He was very present. Saw His tenderness in how He made it as easy as He could on us. Learned to worship Him and no other, no matter how wonderful they are. (And my Dad was wonderful.) Don't take even one day with someone for granted...tell them you love them, hug and kiss them every chance you get.
My Dad enjoyed the Biblical reference to Enoch, who walked with God and was no more. (Gen. 5:24) How fitting that he walked his way to heaven! I completely believe that one minute he was walking the track, laughing and talking with my Mom and the two nurses, and the next thing he knew he was walking through the gates of Heaven and worshiping our Lord face to face.
My Dad was known for lots of sayings. If he told a "right hand" story, it meant it was true. "Remember what you know." "Who loves you?" "Circle your buts" (in the Bible...it means something different is about to happen.) "What does all mean? All means all." "This means yes (nodding), this means no (shaking his head)." "Remember the first rule of holes: if you're in one, quit digging." I gave him a kind of a
father's journal one holiday, and he didn't completely finish it, but he wrote in it some. I'll end this in his own words, with this November entry: the answer to the question "What Bible character would you most like to meet? Why?"
Enoch! The Bible says that Enoch walked with God, and was no more. I like to think that God would come by every afternoon, see Enoch rocking on the front porch. He would say, "Enoch, want to go for a walk?" "Sure," was the reply, "Let me get my hat." Their walks took longer each day. Finally, one day God said, "We're closer to my house than yours. Why don't you just come home with me?" I wish I could live a life so that others could say, "Tom walks with God--"